In Church on Sunday (a few Sundays ago). The lesson was centered on trusting the Lord, trusting God. Joseph Smith had come up in the discussion and was talked about how he had went and prayed and had trusted God enough to answer his prayer. It was asked how do we come to trust in the Lord. It had come in to my minds view that Joseph Smith, whom was given as an example in the lesson had parents that taught him gospel principles, who had read the scriptures to/ with him. He had parents who helped him to develop that trust in the Lord. Having that parental involvement in finding that trust in the Lord in helping you to have instilled those values. Also, having parents that you know you can rely on and have shown that you can trust them, will probably enable you to trust in the Lord more easily, because you know that if he is anything like your parents that he will be there for you.
I had said this comment that you just have to be brave and put yourself out there especially when you haven't had parents that have shown you how to trust in the Lord. The response that I got back was not something that I expected. I feel that when we are sharing our thoughts and insights with women in the church, in a gospel setting that our comments, life experiences should not be looked at so lightly. No one knows the past that is behind us. I was told in response that the people raised by "goodly parents" all around us were actually the minority in the majority. As in my past, with my screwed up parents was common. No one should assume..
I feel that if she had really known me, she would not have thought that the parents and early childhood life was as common as all the families who did not have as "goodly" of parents.
I now feel more inclined to keep my past and the reflections that I have of it to myself in times when I would have otherwise shared tidbits of myself when it would have applied to the things that were being talked about with people that don't know me so well.
Every one has not so happy childhoods and parents who don't teach such principles, but that doesn't mean that the not so happy childhoods that we have are all the same. We all have different horrors from the past. Mine aren't any more difficult or more important than anyone, nor should they be diminished either.
-Years of drug abuse, partying, neglect
-Children who were ripped from the home
because of choices of their father
-Moving from shelter home,
to relatives homes, to foster homes
-A father who decided to take his own life
in the garage of the childhood home
---Brothers who were not able
to grow in the same home as the sisters
--A mother who could have tried to get her children back,
but doesn't even show up for court
and even after they have grown
isn't a part of my life or her grand children's.
Maybe I'm wrong but this doesn't seem so simple as just a parent not being "goodly" or not teaching their child trust or the principles of the gospel.
Everyone's comments and experiences should be Note-Worthy
and not brushed aside as common